先把你的句子分成两句,然后再合并起来,你就理解了.
1 It isn't the way.I hope it would be the way.-------- 变成定语从句：
2 It isn't the way THAT I hoped it would be the way.------把that放在两个句子中间,把第二个the way去掉：
3 It isn't the way （THAT） I hoped it would be -----也就是说,I hoped it would be 是定语从句部分,必须写出来.