四篇供选择
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How to get along with others ?This is a good question. Many of my friends asked me this question.
I think if you want to get along well with others ,you must be kind and friendly to others at firt .
If you are kind and friendly enough to others, they would be kind and friendly to you too and they would like to make friends with you.But if you are bad, I think none of them would like to be your friend. And if you have no friends,you will feel very lonely and sad. So be kind and friendly to others .And I am sure you can get along very well with others.
Getting along well with others is very important. If you can get along well with others, you will enjoy yourself every day and succeed when you do anything .If not, you will not enjoy yourself at all and fail in anything.
2.How to Get Along Well with Others
In our daily life, we have to come into contact with people in every walk of life.Therefore, it is very important for us to know how to get along with other people. To get well along with others and win their friendships, we must observe strictly the following words.
To begin with, we need to be honest with others and shouh{ always say what we mean. Lies will surely make people stay far away from us in the long run. After all,honesty is the best policy. Second, we have to be humble enough. If we are proud in public, we can hardly win other's respect, not to mention "friendship" Finally, we must not be selfish. We should learn how to show concern for others
As long as we abide by what is mentioned above, we will find it easy to get along well with others.
怎样与人相处
在我们日常生活中,不免会有与人打交道的时候,所以对我们采说懂得怎样与人相处是很重要的.要想与别人很好相处,并赢得友谊,就必须做到以下所述：
首先,要诚实守信地对待别人,说谎一定会使人远离你,诚实是最好的策略.其次,就是要有足够的虚心.假如我们在公共场合自傲,我们很难赢得别人的尊重,更不用提友谊了.最后,我们不能自私,我们必须友善待人,我们必须关心别人.
当我们遵守上述所说的去与人相处,你就会发现：与人相处其实并不难.
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This timely list of tips first appeared in the St. Spyridon Newsletter (Worcester, Mass.), and was later reprinted in The Hellenic Chronicle. It's a great review for parents and children preparing to face a new school year in a Christ-like way!
Keep skid chains on your tongue; always say less than you think. Cultivate a low, persuasive voice. How you say it often counts more than what you say.
Make promises sparingly, and keep them faithfully, no matter what it costs.
Never let an opportunity pass to say a kind and encouraging word to or about somebody. Praise good work, regardless of who did it. If criticism is needed, criticize helpfully, never spitefully.
Be interested in others, their pursuits, their work, their homes, and families. Make merry with those who rejoice; with those who weep, mourn. Let everyone you meet, however humble, feel that you regard him as a person of importance.
Be cheerful. Don't burden or depress those around you by dwelling on your minor aches and pains and small disappointments. Remember, everyone is carrying baggage.
Keep an open mind. Discuss - but don't argue. It is a mark of a superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable.
Let your virtues speak for themselves. Refuse to talk of another's vices. Discourage gossip. It is a waste of valuable time and can be extremely destructive.
Be careful of another's feelings. Wit and humor at the other person's expense are rarely worth it and may hurt when least expected.
Pay no attention to ill-natured remarks about you. Remember, the person who carried the message may not be the most accurate reporter in the world. Simply live so that nobody will believe them. Disordered nerves and bad digestion are a common cause of back-biting.
Don't be anxious about the credit due you. Do your best, and be patient. Forget about yourself, and let others remember. Success is much sweeter that way.
4.How to Get Along with Your Spouse (and Others)
When your spouse does something wrong, how do you react?
Some spouses like to blame. "You really embarrassed me when you told that stupid joke. You make me want to stay at home."
Other spouses prefer to criticize. "You’re so fat it makes me sick."
Getting even is also a favorite response. "Well, because you were flirting with Chris, I decided to flirt with Pat."
By blaming, criticizing or getting even with your spouse, you are trying to be AT CAUSE by putting your spouse AT EFFECT. Unfortunately, putting your spouse AT EFFECT is harmful to your relationship. You start arguments and fights. Just because your parents reacted badly toward each other is no reason you need to continue the tradition.
Cause and Effect
When it comes to situations and relationships, you are either at a cause point or an effect point. When you paint a wall, you are at cause over the paint and the color of the wall. When you spill paint all over your clothes, you are at the effect of that paint.
There are two types of relationships:
1. CAUSE-EFFECT is the most common type of relationship. As in the examples above, you take command of the relationship and put someone else at the effect of you or the problem.
For example, husband John says, "Mary, you ran over the neighbor’s gate. How could you be so stupid?"
John might feel at cause over the gate problem, but Mary will feel effect.
2. In a CAUSE-CAUSE relationship, you assume a cause point yourself AND you allow or encourage others to assume the cause point as well. This idea comes from L. Ron Hubbard who writes:
"If Mary burns the toast, John accepts responsibility for this action. This does not mean that he assumes all the responsibility and leaves none for Mary. It means that he assumes all the responsibility and that Mary assumes all the responsibility, too. They both assume all the responsibility. Under such an arrangement, no one can be blamed. All their attention goes into doing better with the toast, and none of it is wasted in blame.
"Mary runs the family automobile into the neighbor’s gate. The neighbor rushes over in a huff and encounters John in the front yard. The neighbor says, `You just ruined my gate!’ John goes with the neighbor to look at the gate and at the car. Sure enough, there is blue paint on the gate and white paint on the car. The evidence is conclusive. John agrees with the neighbor that the gate has been damaged by John’s car and he asks the neighbor to have it repaired and send him the bill. The neighbor says that the damage is not very great and so he will repair it himself. John lends him the tools and helps him to repair the gate. John insists on buying a can of white paint, and the neighbor says he will enjoy painting the gate on Sunday. He apologizes for being so excited at first. They shake hands.
"John goes into the house, and Mary says, `Dear, I hit the Jones’s gate with the car.’ John says, `Yes, I know. We’ve already repaired it." Mary says, `I’m sorry. I was thinking about the bathroom curtains.’ John says, `That’s all right. What about the bathroom curtains?’ Mary says, I want to dye them blue.’ John says, `That’s a good idea.’
"If nobody is to blame for the damage to the gate, a constructive subject like dyeing the curtains will immediately attract John’s and Mary’s attention, since it represents future action." — L. Ron Hubbard
Cause-cause relations are teamwork at its very best. You and your spouse accept responsibility for all of the actions of each other. You spread an umbrella of responsibility.
Imagine no arguments or upsets with your spouse. Imagine never trading insults or hurtful comments.
Making a cause-cause relationship with your spouse is the road to a happy marriage.
Give it a try!