Most people have plenty of insecurities,and this seems like a situation that will bring them out.If parents,teachers or peers mocked your foibles as a child,you fear a repeat.If you were under pressure to be perfect,you are terrified of failing in the most public of ways."
While extroverts will feel less fear before the ordeal,it does not mean they will necessarily do it better.Some very shy people manage to shine.When I met the British comedian Julian Clary,he was shy and cautious,yet his TV performances are perfect.And he enjoys TV formats that call for unscripted spontaneity.
In fact,personality is not the best predictor of who does it well.Regardless of what you are like in real life,the key seems to be to act yourself.
Actual acting,as in performing the scripted lines of a character other than yourself,does not do the job.While politicians may limit damage by having carefully rehearsed,written screeds to speak from,there is always a hidden awareness among the audience that the words might not be true.
Likewise,the incredibly perfect sales pitches of many American academics are too contrived." You may end up buying their book on the way out,but soon afterwards,it's much like fast food,and you get a nameless sense that you've been cheated.
Although,as Earl Spencer proved at his sister Princess Diana's funeral,it is possible both to prepare every word and to act naturally.A script rarely works and it is used as a crutch by most people.
But,being yourself doesn't work either.If you spoke as if you were in your own kitchen,it would be too authentic,too unaware of the need to communicate with an audience.
I remember going to see British psychiatrist RD Laing speak in public.He behaved like a seriously odd person,talking off the top of his head.Although he was talking about madness and he wrote on mental illness,he seemed to be exhibiting rather than explaining it.
The best psychological place from which to speak is an unselfconscious self-consciousness,providing the illusion of being natural." Studies suggest that this state of "flow",as psychologists call it,is very satisfying.Whether in normal life or making speeches,the key is to remind yourself that,contrary to what your teachers or parents may have implied,your best is good enough.In the zone,a strange place of authentic falsehood and shallow depth,play is possible.
People are sometimes nervous because they fear being in the spotlight or that they will perform badly.They may be afraid of their listeners.They may think their ideas aren't good enough,or that they are personally not good enough.People tend to be anxious about the unknown,and this fear may generate those feelings of nervousness that are so common among us all.
Such fears can be valuable to a speaker who knows how to channel them constructively.We think there are twelve things you can do to channel any feelings of fear and nervousness that you might experience:
Keep your fear to yourself.
Visualize yourself being successful.
Practice working with your body.
Surround yourself with notes.
Know and understand your listeners.
Check out all the arrangements carefully.
Talk only about things you know and care about.
Prepare carefully.
Remind yourself that nervousness is normal.
Pause briefly before you start.
Use your audience.
Give yourself permission to make mistakes.
但愿对你有用.