I wrote a letter 【asking him to come】
asking him to come 是分词短语作后置定语修饰 a letter 的.
如果说成
I wrote a letter,asking him to come.
(加逗号,意思一样,此时,分词短语作状语表伴随行为)
不可以说:
I wrote a letter to ask him coming
要说:
I wrote a letter to ask him to come (不定式to ask him to come 作目的状语)
ask sb to do sth 要求某人做什么
ask 后面的复合宾语中不可以用doing sth 作宾补,OK?!