1.楼主对主动被动结构变化不够敏感.
主动结构:reconcile sb/oneself with sb
上述结构如果把第一个sb/oneself作为主语,变为被动即:(sb) be reconciled with sb
此例句是过去完成时的被动结构,当然也可以把reconciled视为形容词.
主动句为:He had reconciled himself with his family.
2.如果直接说成:reconcile with sb,当然视reconcile为不及物动词.
查过资料的确也可以,不过非常少见.